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We have lived mobile for about 20 years. My wife is a stickler for recorded tithe, she has tithed since 12 years old. Each month she writes a check for tithe/missions and offerings and sends it back to our church of membership in , NC.Since we are now homeowners, 3 months now (still not moved in, living in the back yard! LOL), we have found a church we like. We are thinking of attending there regularly. We will still travel, but I feel a little strange not supporting a church we attend. (Of course we give when offerings are received). The subject has not come up with my wife, but I know it will. As a Pastor how do you feel about gypsy members (Maybe 3 months at a time separated by a month or two)? Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

I think a lot of pastors wouldn't mind your sending your tithes to the churches they pastor. That's just a wild guess

I have a suggestion: Let her send her tithe off her income to her home church and you pay off your income to the new church. That is one suggestion.

Thanks LOG. so very much for the suggestions. Her feelings are always considered, she is of the old school also, it will be an agreement what ever we do.Once for two years when we were attending a Florida Church most of the winter, we paid tithe to the church we attended then back to our home church in the summer. I wrote both pastors to explain what we had decided to do. The Florida pastor answered immediately saying it was not necessary, we were welcome anytime with or without out tithe. I never heard from our home church pastor. OUCH. So we went on with our plans. Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

What you're suggesting is that Cojak should make the decision and that Mrs. Cojak should go along with it. Really, there is no scriptural reason for this decision to fall only to the husband or even ultimately to the husband.

What you're suggesting is that Cojak should make the decision and that Mrs. Cojak should go along with it. Really, there is no scriptural reason for this decision to fall only to the husband or even ultimately to the husband.The priest of their house is Jesus and there is no other mediator between God and humankind. Mrs. Cojak will answer for her own conscience as Cojak will answer for his. Sure there is Bonnie. The husband is the head of the wife. The wife is told to submit to her husband. Peter implied a wife's submission to her husband included obedience. In the Old Testament, even a wife's vows to God (and they vowed material possessions, like sacrificing a lamb) were subject to the husband's decision. He could cancel the vow. He could do so without guilt if he did it the day he heard it. If he changed his mind about it later, and they didn't fulfill the vow, he was guilty of it and she wasn't.I'm still a bit surprised at the liberalism among COG folks on this issue

No, there isn't Link unless you think we are still under Old Testament laws. No, Mrs. Cojak is not going to answer to God for anyone's decisions but her own. The man being head of wife doesn't mean he makes her decisions for her. Submission goes both ways since love requires submission. The husband is not given authority to be a wife's conscience.Your view is more in line with the Greek philosophers than with the whole counsel of scripture. Aristotle compared husband and wife to soul and body, with husband being the soul that commanded the physical body. He claimed that equality of the two or rule of the inferior [i.e. the wife] is always hurtful.But not to get too far afield, I think if you were to query the poster who started this thread, he will probably acknowledge that is marriage has become more egalitarian over time as well as better over time.

New Testament instructions on marriage aren't egalitarian or American. The Old Testament is from God. Can we say the same thing about American culture?If it were me, in my marriage, if my wife had money coming in from her own job and I had money from mine, it would make sense to me for her to give the way she wanted to in that case and for me to give where I wanted to. I wouldn't mind if she wasn't giving to someone I considered really flaky or in error. It is more important that giving be done with cheerfulness. But I wouldn't condemn husbands for handling it differently.

I havw a few like you & I enjoy when they are with us & I enjoy when they give.However I also know they enjoy giving when they're the road & it doesn't bother me.I think it's all a matter of personal sacrifice & how you feel the Lord leading you to give. I had one family who had left & moved away & for several years they kept giving to us & I have to admit it was needed a few times Empty nest syndrome is for the birds!Email me at: [email protected] planters are focused on just one thing ...introducing people to Jesus!

Thanks Dean, I appreciate the comment. YES, there are times we feel lead to 'GIVE' at some churches we visit. Our 'local pastor' at a remote RV park, was an Alliance pastor, ALWAYS before every offering advised folks to remember to support their home church FIRST, then give there. I find many folk with our dilemma. It is never a problem when we are constantly traveling, just when we try to set some roots hundreds of miles from our place of membership Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/