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A few days ago I was with a family whose much-loved father had passed from this life. I had not known him personally, so when we had some time together, I said to his daughter: Help me get to know your Dad. Tell me about your Dad.For the next 15 minutes, sometimes with tears and other times with smiles and laughter about good times together, she shared about her Dad. Here is what a very good internet article says:If you are looking for special words to comfort someone grieving, look no further than within your heart. Forget the clichés or any packaged sayings; it's important to be genuine. Your goal should be to express compassion, not to cheer up someone who is recently bereaved.

This is good stuff, worthy of a website of it's own, along with the hospice post.Here are some others:You are still young enough to have another baby.At least the baby wasn't old enough for you to get that attached.

rickwhitter.com/2013/11/12/10-things-not-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/

Very good information and advice, What a terrible time to say the WRONG thing and mess with someone's mind. That is one on one or in a sermon. Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

Here's a few encouraging responses to the grieving family:God needed another flower for his garden, so he plucked your momma out of this world and planted her in his garden. He needed her more than you needed her.Don't cry, your momma is helping Elvis teach angels how to sing.

I have been here for a long time and this is as important as any thing ever discussed here , Very Timely . having done close to 1000 funerals in my Ministry I have heard some unbelievable things said , And believe it or not the two most ignorant and one cruel thing I have ever heard came from two Church Of God ministers , A member in Middle Tn. lost a 14 +- years old son through some sickness . The mother said , I don't know why God took him he was my favorite , They had other children , and this STUPID pastor of this family said , Why sister don't you know God ALWAYS takes the one you love the most first . I felt like transplanting his bottom . Another now retired Pastor said this about his only son who in a drunken state shot himself and at the visitation at the funeral home he said , Well my son is in hell right now . Now he probably is but I always leave that determination to the Judge Of all the Earth . God Bless T

I was about to add something similar to the 'not to say' list,God loved your little Susie so much, He wanted her to be with Him.For one thing, that's presuming to know the motives of God. It's blaming Him for the child's death.We as Christians should not be false witnesses of God, so we need to be careful not to make pronouncements about Him doing things or why He did things. No one has the right to make such pronouncements unless God has revealed these things.While some Christians might take comfort at the idea, other people would blame God for taking little Susie if they believe these kinds of words

In the case of believers, do talk about this:I Thessalonians 413 But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.