Is pre-marriage counseling for four weeks prior to the wedding. One hour per week plus weekly homework assignments. If they don’t have time or desire, neither do I. I am beginning the process now of not performing any for non-members. In the past, if you are a member, I will not take your money. If your a non-member I have asked for a donation to our church________________Proverbs 3:5-6; John 13:34-35; Acts 1:8
I never charged to perform a wedding ceremony or officiate a funeral whether a member/attender or not. If they asked what my charge was I would respond by saying that there was none. Most of the time, an honorarium was given.A family member of ours, whose father served on the local pastors council, was told by their pastor that his fee was $200 and $150 for his wife to sing at their wedding. This was a church of about 150. The pastor told them this up front before a fee was even discussed.
We used to charge $500-$1000 for non-members to have their wedding at the church. Included in that fee was payments for the minister, custodian, and usage of various rooms within the church (sanctuary, fellowship hall, classrooms, etc.)
No Herman, it ain’t selfish, greedy or presumptuous at all.Standard protocol at Pikeville is:1. I give a copy of our church wedding policy (which is 7 pages and covers all the details) to every prospective couple.2. There is a brief section dealing with honorariums, which states that based on one’s investment of time/talent/service, it is customary to include in the cost of the wedding an honorarium for the following: musicians, sound personnel, singers, etc. This way, although no honorarium amount is specified, they know from the git go that one is expected.
Dittos!!!I have never charged a fee because frankly I feel that sets you up to be an officiant-on-demand. Once your rates become public , it becomes more difficult to ethically reject officiating a ceremony. Frankly , weddings are generally a pain in the rear for the officiant. He has to sacrifice an entire weekend with his family (not to mention whatever pre-marital counseling hours he has invested ). I am becoming a curmudgeon when it comes to weddings I guess. I am not a fan of doing weddings. Personally, I don’t think I am that good at it. My MIP instructor Professor Rich Ussery told us he worked really hard to do a great job when he performed weddings.
My charge…
Is pre-marriage counseling for four weeks prior to the wedding. One hour per week plus weekly homework assignments. If they don’t have time or desire, neither do I. I am beginning the process now of not performing any for non-members. In the past, if you are a member, I will not take your money. If your a non-member I have asked for a donation to our church________________Proverbs 3:5-6; John 13:34-35; Acts 1:8
And tell thr groom to give me whatever he thinks being married to her is worth ________________
I never charged to perform a wedding ceremony or officiate a funeral whether a member/attender or not. If they asked what my charge was I would respond by saying that there was none. Most of the time, an honorarium was given.A family member of ours, whose father served on the local pastors council, was told by their pastor that his fee was $200 and $150 for his wife to sing at their wedding. This was a church of about 150. The pastor told them this up front before a fee was even discussed.
We used to charge $500-$1000 for non-members to have their wedding at the church. Included in that fee was payments for the minister, custodian, and usage of various rooms within the church (sanctuary, fellowship hall, classrooms, etc.)
Re: Pastor’s, do you charge for performing weddings?
No Herman, it ain’t selfish, greedy or presumptuous at all.Standard protocol at Pikeville is:1. I give a copy of our church wedding policy (which is 7 pages and covers all the details) to every prospective couple.2. There is a brief section dealing with honorariums, which states that based on one’s investment of time/talent/service, it is customary to include in the cost of the wedding an honorarium for the following: musicians, sound personnel, singers, etc. This way, although no honorarium amount is specified, they know from the git go that one is expected.
Dittos!!!
Re: Pastor’s, do you charge for performing weddings?
Dittos!!!I have never charged a fee because frankly I feel that sets you up to be an officiant-on-demand. Once your rates become public , it becomes more difficult to ethically reject officiating a ceremony. Frankly , weddings are generally a pain in the rear for the officiant. He has to sacrifice an entire weekend with his family (not to mention whatever pre-marital counseling hours he has invested ). I am becoming a curmudgeon when it comes to weddings I guess. I am not a fan of doing weddings. Personally, I don’t think I am that good at it. My MIP instructor Professor Rich Ussery told us he worked really hard to do a great job when he performed weddings.