It depends on where you live. It seems to be the norm to expect men and women to both be virgins at marriage in Indonesia. In the US, I read that it is estimated that 3% of individuals are virgins at marriage, and that 60% of those ar efemale. It is sad that the numbers are so low. The majority of the 3% attend religious services regularly. The divorce rates after five years are lower for those who are virgins at marriage. ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability