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Ministers, have you ever experienced a season where you felt a burden or leading from God in a particular area and your wife just did not feel it, and, furthermore, did not even seem interested in praying for God to show her

Just a thought. It might be you - not her. Perhaps that is where your prayers should be focused. She might just have gotten tired from the last vision you received that never came to fruition.Perhaps God didn't confirm it to her - because you have missed it. Maybe there isn't anything to show.My experience: When God talks to us - he is working on us - not our spouse. When He finally gets us ready - the spouse will be ready

At sounds real good, NB, but son, at ain't always how it works. Sometimes a spouse just won't submit to God's will. When at happens, the minister must leave the spouse, divorce them, then marry someone who feels the same burden calling. At air is whats called a NEW SEASON.

I've given people the same advise. But do you feel what you describe is always the case? What if a man didn't have a past vision that never came to fruition? What if it is a situation where the wife is from a strict holiness legalism background and is afraid to break free from those parameters

Years after I left the ministry my wife confided that she had NEVER felt comfortable as a preacher's wife. She was/is one of the most godly women I know. She was not proud of how I left the preaching ministry, but was glad she was no longer a 'pastor's wife'.I was so wrapped up in what I 'THOUGHT' was the will of God, I never asked her opinion. She was a dedicated wife and followed me in many occupations (IT appeared I could not hold a job).She told me two 'successful' COG pastors wives confided to her, they felt the same, and their husbands were still pastoring. They were not happy.We had a young pastor in Florida who pastored a large church and his wife went to the State Overseer and told him she was leaving her husband because he refused to quit pastoring. She divorced him and he married one of the members and is still pastoring the same church I understand.I said that to say, If I had known my wife was miserable and did not see my goals, I would have modified them, my family is that important to me.God, family, church or calling; would be my order of priorities. Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

It can happen both ways, where either spouse isn't really excited about another spouse' ministry, vision, etc. Outright opposition would be a lot more difficult to deal with. I've experienced a couple of times where I believed the Lord wanted us to move to a particular place, and it takes my wife a while to hear or perceive that this is the Lord's will. It's happened in advance of the move, so it hasn't been a serious problem. It would be nice, though, if your partner says, God just told me the same thing.I know a couple who experienced that. They were both doctors in the UK. They flew to the US for something. The story went something like this. One said to the other, I believe the Lord may be wanting us to move to America. And the other one said he or she just heard the Lord tell him/her the same thing. They gave up their medical careers, moved to the US and worked selling Amway and doing something with health insurance. The husband was in a venture to start an MLM company, the actual company, the last I heard. And they've helped plant numerous house churches along the way, including with people from their Amway downline

I had always felt that my own spiritual experiences and ability were ahead of my wife's. Not that I didn't respect her views, but being older, having more experience, etc., I just felt that if we were in conflict spiritually, I was surely the one in the right.Bro. Ivester was preaching in Live Oak and mentioned how he had learned to heed his wife's advice. He mentioned that if his wife indicated that she wasn't comfortable about a certain person, say, he listened carefully. I don't recall all the particulars, but I felt like it was a word from the Lord for me to be more sensitive to my wife's take on things. For YEARS, I had wanted to pastor, but because I wasn't sure of my calling, and because my wife was fairly adamant that she did NOT want to be a pastor's wife (with ALL that comes with that!), I just did what my hands found to do, so to speak.But when the Lord opened the door to pastor, my wife was EXCITED about the opportunity. Had it happened before then, it might not have been the Lord's best for us. But today I simply could not be an effective pastor without her. She is the one who organizes so much of what is done in terms of special Sundays, etc.

At sounds real good, NB, but son, at ain't always how it works. Sometimes a spouse just won't submit to God's will. When at happens, the minister must leave the spouse, divorce them, then marry someone who feels the same burden calling. At air is whats called a NEW SEASON. You really listen to too many Paula White sermons old timer.Need to cut back

I remember the 78rpm records. We had several that were cracked. We called them broken records. Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

One third of my congregation of 350 doesn't know who my wife is. My wife is a godly woman devoted to prayer, but she is not interested in fulfilling a traditional pastor's wife role. I have never forced her to do it. Early in our pastoral work (30 years ago) she served a stint as Ladies Ministries President, but with only 45 people there weren't many options. She didn't like being up front. For the past 28 years she has served behind the scenes supporting me with her prayer life and counsel. I wouldn't have it any other way. She sometimes feels guilty about it, but I tell her she gives me the best support I can ask for - prayer. No one in our present pastorate of 20 years has ever expected anything more from her. She has a full-time job in accounting and attends church and will be seen in the kitchen at funerals and other food events, but that is the extent of her public role.